Relationship Advice: How to Heal a Broken Heart

By Rachel Sparks

The relationship advice in this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video will help you mend that broken heart. Relationship expert and founder of Single in Stilettos Suzanne Oshima interviews relationship author Duana Welch for her top three tips on how you can heal after a break-up.

Relationship Author Duana Welch Offers Her Best Relationship Advice on How to Heal a Broken Heart

1. Be brave: “The things that we dream of most are the things we are most scared of,” Welch shares. Face your fear in order to pursue your dream relationship. It’s easier to sit on the couch and wallow in heartache, but that doesn’t help you move on. Dating is scary, but as the relationship author says, “Do it anyway.”

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Dealing with a Dating Burnout

2. Move on: May Weather once said, “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Welch quotes this eighteenth-century woman to prove her point: The best way to move past an old heartache is to jump into a new relationship. No matter what people say about loving yourself first, starting up another relationship can offer the adrenaline that helps you forget the past pain.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

3. Learn relationship science: There are boundless resources that can teach you about the human mating cycle. While that’s not a glamorous term for dating, when you begin to treat relationships like science experiments, you can learn what works and what doesn’t. If you’re already hurting from heartache, how bad can failing at dating experiments be? As Welch advises, “Taking no steps is guaranteed failure.”

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Relationship Advice: The Pitfalls of Dating While Divorcing

By Dr. Jane Greer

Dating someone new is exciting but often challenging, and adding the complications of a divorce that’s not officially finalized yet, as well as kids from the fractured marriage, into the mix can create a whirlwind of possible pitfalls and new challenges. Waiting for a divorce to become official, though, can take some time, and it is often difficult to put the entire future of one’s love life on hold until it is all said and done. Actor Brad Pitt, for example, has been seeing MIT professor Neri Oxman in the midst of ending his marriage to Angelina Jolie. Dating while being separated from your ex-spouse can often feel like a no man’s land of uncharted territory with no clear rules. There may be concerns about how quickly to move things along, or a newfound fear of commitment because the most recent union failed.

While you may be eager to move forward and find new love, it can feel like a slippery slope where you can get in too deep quickly, sometimes without even meaning to. With that in mind, there are certain pieces of relationship advice to consider as you navigate this sometimes lawless territory.

The first obvious question is how soon is too soon? It is a very personal journey in terms of how each person manages the sadness of saying good-bye to someone they loved and shared a life with. Some people have no immediate desire to meet someone new, and instead withdraw and go into emotional hibernation, unwilling to put themselves out there for a while and risk being hurt again or diving into another unsuccessful relationship. Others take the opposite approach and seek out a new romance because that is what they believe they need to survive the turmoil they are facing. Taking your personal inventory of what works for you, figuring out your own rhythm of moving faster or slower, can be helpful in gauging the best way for you to proceed. If you do decide to jump back in to the pond of love, try to consider what didn’t work in your marriage and attempt to avoid those behaviors in this new partnership.

Related Link: Celebrity News: Brad Pitt is Casually Dating as He Adjusts to Single Life as a Dad

Along those same lines, how do you balance the responsibilities and devotion you have to your children, as well as all the things that go along with taking apart your old life, with this new person? Consider how much energy you realistically have to give to your new identity as a single person and to your new relationship. If you have met someone you really like and want to get involved, that is fine, but keep your kids in mind and pace yourself with how you introduce them, possibly saying your new love interest is simply a friend at first so as not to confuse them. On the flip side, you might find you are not ready to invest a lot of time into a new romance. He or she might want to jump right in, planning dates and weekend brunches, but you are juggling time with your kids and don’t want to miss a soccer game or a dance performance which often conflicts with the proposed plans. Think about and prioritize what is most important to you, and be completely honest about what you are willing and able to put into this new situation. Be clear about your time and what you need to keep it balanced. It can be helpful to convey this upfront so that they can keep their expectations of you realistic and not bombard you with demands for getting together. By doing this it will help make the new relationship stay light and be a relief for you, instead of becoming another emotional burden and a new source of guilt.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Can You Cheat Jealousy?

Finally, is it okay to talk about your ex and the details of your divorce with your new dates? There is no question that you have gone through a difficult time as you and your ex-spouse untangle the life you shared together. It has probably been the focal point of everything for you, all that you can think about. It is natural, then, that it is what you are used to talking about, and very likely what you want to talk about. That is understandable, but when it comes to the people you are just meeting and getting to know, the less you say about the nitty-gritty of your ex and your divorce, the better. Try to keep the conversation focused on fun topics such as activities you enjoy doing as well as those you would like to pursue in the future. Instead of making this new person your support system while you go through the divorce, allow your connection to be about what is ahead of you and think about it as an opportunity to explore who you are now and who you are becoming.

While it is a lot to contend with, it appears Brad is handling these possible roadblocks and choices with aplomb. Neri seems to be taking everything in stride, and perhaps she and Brad can continue on this path to happiness together.

Please tune in to the Doctor on Call radio hour on HealthyLife.net every Tuesday at 2 PM EST, 11 AM PST. First and third Tuesdays are Shrink Wrap on Call, second Tuesdays are HuffPost on Call, and the last Tuesday of the month is Let’s Talk Sex! Email your questions dealing with relationships, intimacy, family, and friendships to Dr. Greer at askdrjane@drjanegreer.com. Connect with Dr. Jane Greer on Facebook, at www.facebook.com/DrJaneGreer, and be sure to follow @DrJaneGreer on Twitter for her latest insights on love, relationships, sex, and intimacy. For more on Dr. Greer, visit http://www.drjanegreer.com.

Relationship Advice for the Guys: How to Approach a Woman You’re Interested In

By David Wygant

One of the biggest problems for men today is that they suffer from a made-up disease called Approach Anxiety. I keep waiting to see commercials during football games from a major drug manufacturer. It would start like this: a man staring at a woman who is staring at her phone. The man would be thinking about what to say. The woman would still be standing there, checking her Facebook feed or re-reading a text. You can substitute any of the details for this situation because, wherever women go, they’re staring at their phones. It’s their safety blanket, their virtual crutch. It may be annoying, but it still doesn’t give the men a reason not to go and talk them.

Unfortunately, most men will be in this situation and say, “I really wanted to talk to this woman, but she was too busy on her phone.” Women will always have their phone. It’s the way they protect themselves, which means that men have to learn to conquer their Approach Anxiety.

Relationship Advice on Approaching Women from Relationship Expert David Wygant

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If you suffer from Approach Anxiety, try this new pill. If you are always trying to think of the right thing to say, then you need to take Approach No More. Now, the side effects may be substantial. You may itch. You may have a chronic stomachache. You may have heart palpitations, but at least you’ll be able to go talk to a woman.

Honestly, I find the whole thing super silly. My relationship advice is to remember that you’re just strangers passing each other during the day. It’s so easy to start a conversation based on whatever is going on in the moment. I call it the power of observation.

Observe what a woman is doing and make a comment on it so you are jumping into her world. For instance, if she’s at Starbucks and ordering a drink you’ve never had, say something like, “I’ve never had that here. Is it good? Is it your favorite?”

Men are always looking for opening lines. Opening lines are the biggest con in the world. Speak, talk, say anything, be human. Talk to a woman like you would talk to a regular person, and stop treating her like she’s ET’s sister. That’s how you approach a woman you’re interested in. Remember that you’re not truly interested in her until you get to know her.

Related Link: Relationship Advice for Guys: Why Is It So Hard to Date? 

So how do you get to know her? You must talk to her. Communicate with her. Speak to her. Talk to her like you would anybody else. In my 20 years of being a relationship expert and helping men and women understand each other, I basically have told men the same thing over and over again: Stop worrying so much about what you say and just say anything. Realize women are more open than you think. They’ll put the phone down if you come and talk to them, if you’re confident about what you say, if you speak to them like you would an old friend. But if you go over there and try to say something clever that’s really not clever, if you say something stupid that you’ve seen on the Internet, or if you’re just shaking in your pants because you’re so afraid to talk to her, she’s going to feel that energy and want to run.

The only way you make a woman interested in you is if you treat her as you treat anybody else, and it’s something that I do all the time. This dating advice works. The problem is that men have been marketed to death and made to believe that they need to do something so spectacular. Try talking to her about what’s going on in the moment and listen to what she has to say. Just treat her like a human being.

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship expert, author of the book Naked, and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching, and his website, his love advice has transformed the relationships and love of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe. 

For more expert relationship advice from David, click here.

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Love & Libations: Heat Up Your Relationship with a Date Night in the Kitchen

Cupid's Pulse Article: Love & Libations: Heat Up Your Relationship with a Date Night in the Kitchen

Couple cooking. Photo: Poznyakov / Bigstock.com

by Yolanda Shoshana

Preparing a nice home-cooked meal on a date night with your partner is one of the sexiest things that you can do together. It’s also important to pair your food with the right spirit or wine. There are some celebrity chefs who have the perfect libations to add a sensual touch to your dinner table.

Ideas for Date Nights at Home

If you are a foodie, you have probably already gone to an Alain Ducasse restaurant. The celebrity chef has around 19 Michelin stars under his belt. Ducasse partnered with Grey Goose to create the first gastronomy vodka called Grey Goose Interpreted by Ducasse. Basically, the vodka was made to pair with food. Since it has notes of coffee, chocolate, and vanilla, it would be great to pair with something from the slow cooker on a night that you and your partner plan to stay in. It would be particularly wonderful with a mole sauce.

Related Link: Romantic Cocktails for Winter Date Nights

If anyone should be in the libation business, it’s Martha Stewart: She shows us how to cook and entertain better than anyone. She finally got into the wine game by creating a wine club with some of her favorite picks. Joining the club could be a great way for you and your boo to plan your meal based on wines from around the world. Stewart has plenty of aphrodisiac recipes available to whip up that can go with your wine choice. Don’t forget to try new dishes! It adds to the excitement.

If you are into Italian wines, then chef Lidia Bastianich has the right wine for you. Besides hosting a television show, Bastianich is a restaurateur mainly on the East Coast, but she has a spot in Kansas City too. She founded the Bastianich Winery in 1997 in the Friuli-Venezia Giulia area of Italy. Since she has various cookbooks, you and your partner could select one of her recipes and pair it with one of her wines. If white wine is your choice, the Bastianich Vespa Bianco would be great with fish. On the flipside, the Bastianich Vespa Rosso is the perfect selection for a red sauce dish — and just because red wine is sexy.

Related Link: Date Night Ideas Inspired by Celebrity Red Wines

Wolfgang Puck is known for his extravagant dinners and his work with celebrities. Did you know that Puck also has his own wine? Luckily, they’re very affordable: There are both red and white selections in the 12 to 15 dollar range. The wine was created to celebrate family, friendships, and hope. If you wonder what to pair his wines with, go with pizza. Everyone knows that Puck loves pizza, and he has a pizza dough recipe that makes people salivate. Plus, pizza and wine are the perfect pairing for a night of romance.

For more Love & Libations date night ideas and celebrity couple predictions from Yolanda Shoshana, click here

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Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018

Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018

Lady Gaga. Photo: David Gabber / PRPhotos.com

By Jessica Gomez

In celebrity news, Lady Gaga and her fiancé Christian Carino were photographed sharing an endearing kiss backstage at the 2018 Grammys on Sunday, according to UsMagazine.com. Gaga was nominated for Best Pop Vocal Album for “Joanne” and Best Pop Solo Performance for “Million Reasons.” The pop star did not win either award, but she did preform a fusion of both nominated songs. And, her future hubby was there to support his lady. Let’s keep our ears open for their celebrity wedding date!

This newly engaged celebrity couple are very much in love. What are some ways to support your partner in his or her professional endeavors?


Cupid’s Advice:

Supporting one another in a relationship is a given! Cupid has some relationship advice on ways to support your partner’s journey toward their career path:

1. Be their cheerleader: Sometimes when following your dreams, things can get rocky, and what we really need is a support system. Be respectful of their feelings and listen to them. Show your partner you understand, support them by acknowledging their negative feelings and encouraging their positive ones. Don’t forget to cheer them on as well. Lift them up when they’re at their lows and their highs. Words of encouragement go a long way.

Related Link: How Jessica Biel & Justin Timberlake Keep Their Marriage Strong

2. Offer help: Sometimes your partner may need an extra mind, a different perspective. Sometimes a shoulder to lean on. Discuss the obstacles and the solutions to those obstacles together. Helping them in any way you can in any aspect of their life can help their career one. Be on the lookout and see what your partner may need. You both are a team, and you have to be in it together to win it.

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3. Stay involved: While being a cheerleader and offering help to your partner, you of course have to stay involved. Keep yourself updated with their journey and what’s going on with them mentally and emotionally, and vice versa. Neither you or your partner should become isolated from the other. Pursing a career can take up a lot of time and effort, but staying involved with one another is also important when in a committed relationship. Keep lines of communication open at all times, and keep up with as much optimism as possible!

What ways have you encouraged and supported your partner during their journeys? Comment below!

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Relationship Advice: What If Your Family Doesn’t Approve Of Your Partner?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: What If Your Family Doesn’t Approve Of Your Partner?

Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos

By Dr. Jane Greer

Choosing a partner for life is a big deal under any circumstances. There’s enough pressure on yourself to ensure that you’re making the right decision and meeting all your needs. So what happens when you come up against a thumbs down from a parent, sibling, or friend who has been weighing in on your choices all your life? Why is it that the people you love take a contrary position and see your partner completely unsuitable for you? Why can’t they just welcome the people your care about with open arms? If this sounds like a familiar situation, you are not alone. This is a very common experience for many people, and it happens for a lot of reasons. It speaks to declaring your independence, freedom of choice, autonomy, and, most importantly, trusting your own judgement to know what is best for you, rather than what others think is best.

Here are some key pieces of relationship advice as you work to stay true to yourself and your commitment, without allowing conflict to tear apart your family:

It has been reported that Selena Gomez‘s mother is not happy about her rekindled celebrity relationship with pop star Justin Bieber. Considering how distraught Selena was in the aftermath of their much-publicized breakup, it makes sense that her loved ones would worry about her this time around. Whatever the reasons may be, Selena’s mom has assured the public that she just wants her daughter to be safe, healthy, and happy. While the approval of your parents is always a plus in any relationship, is it crucial to the success of your union? What can you do, then, if you find yourself in a similar situation?

It is important to begin with an open conversation with the person criticizing your partner. Ask them to spell out their concerns and explain why they feel the person is not right for you. This isn’t always easy to do. You might start from a defensive position, (especially if this is a continuous pattern) but it is worth hearing what’s on their mind because their thinking is valid and you might be missing something. Keep an open mind while you are talking and consider what they have to say. If, for example, your romantic partner exhibited bad behavior in the past and your parents call that out, think about what has changed and what is different now. You have likely allowed yourself to fully trust that person and move forward with them. Explain the changes and describe why the previous behaviors are no longer something to worry about.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Is a Bad Boy Good for You?

If, on the other hand, your family members or friends raise issues about a difference in race or religion, this may be a fork in the road where you choose to go your own way. It becomes a step toward independence, and a move away from the ideals of the family you grew up in. It is a time when you can take responsibility and voice your own values, even though they may differ from your parents, siblings, or friends. It can serve as an emotional emancipation and where you start to embrace what is important to you. When this happens, you acknowledge that they have criticisms, while asserting that they are not your personal beliefs.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: When Is the Old New Again?

Whatever the case, if you continue to meet disapproval tell your loved ones that you would like them to “agree to disagree” and accept that you have clear differences of opinion in order to stay together as a family. This is also a time to put boundaries in place. Note that you are aware they don’t like your choice, but you do not want to hear anything more from them unless you specifically ask for an opinion. You can even warn that if they broach the subject, you will simply end the conversation. This will help you keep some control and prevent being blindsided.

The ultimate goal is to avoid getting into a power struggle that could make you feel controlled and judged by a parent or other loved one. It’ll also avoid lots of arguments, too! Try not to become defensive or feel you have to justify your choice. The only thing that matters is that you are happy, excited, and comfortable as you move forward with your partner with your eyes on the future. Hopefully Selena and Justin will be able to do this and find peace even with the family discord. And, in time, Selena’s mother will also come around and embrace her daughter’s rekindled romance.

Please tune in to the Doctor on Call radio hour on HealthyLife.net every Tuesday at 2 PM EST, 11 AM PST. First and third Tuesdays are Shrink Wrap on Call, second Tuesdays are HuffPost on Call, and the last Tuesday of the month is Let’s Talk Sex! Email your questions dealing with relationships, intimacy, family, and friendships to Dr. Greer at askdrjane@drjanegreer.com. Connect with Dr. Jane Greer on Facebook, at www.facebook.com/DrJaneGreer, and be sure to follow @DrJaneGreer on Twitter for her latest insights on love, relationships, sex, and intimacy. For more on Dr. Greer, visit http://www.drjanegreer.com.

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Celebrity Getaway: Prince Harry & Meghan Markle Plan Vacation Ahead of Wedding

Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Getaway: Prince Harry & Meghan Markle Plan Vacation Ahead of Wedding

Prince Harry & Meghan Markle. Photo: Twitter/@foodandwine

By Rachel Sparks

We’re just as excited for the royal celebrity couple as they are! The royal celebrity wedding plans are moving along at lightening speed. Meghan Markle, a Protestant, is making plans to get baptized and confirmed at the Church of England. The televised wedding ceremony and reception are set to take place in Windsor Castle. According to UsMagazine.com, amidst all of the wedding planning, the happy couple are planning a celebrity getaway somewhere sunny, set to come back refreshed for their 2018 wedding!

This duo is heading for a celebrity getaway pre-wedding! What are some benefits to a pre-nuptials getaway?

Cupid’s Advice:

The wedding season is all about you and your partner, so enjoy the time celebrating your partnership. Sometimes, though, wedding planning gets stressful and you need to reconnect with your partner to remind yourselves of the joy for this season. Here’s Cupid’s relationship advice for your wedding planning:

1. Reconnect: Amidst all the stress of wedding planning, it’s easy to start getting frustrated with your future spouse. During these times arguments can start, creating doubt (cold feet) before the wedding.  Taking time away to reconnect with your spouse will solidify your relationship and help remind you both why you’re getting married.

Related Link: Celebrity Wedding: Source Says Prince Henry & Meghan Markle Are Engaged & Will Have a Summer Wedding

2. Escape the stress: getting away means no wedding planning, which should mean no stress. Your wedding is about you, and at the end of the day, whatever you forgot or whatever goes wrong doesn’t matter because you’re married to the love of your life. As long as you have a great best man and maid of honor, you have nothing to stress about while you’re gone!

Related Link: Royal Celebrity Wedding: Prince Henry & Meghan Markle’s Wedding Venue and Date Revealed

3. Celebrate yourselves: In case the stress sucks you in, you need to remind you and your love what the wedding means. You’re celebrating the love you have for each other and the faith you have in your relationship. Taking a mini vacay before the wedding can help you guys celebrate like you should be!

Have you taken a vacation pre-nuptials or do you wish you had? Share your advice below!

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