Relationship Advice: How to Heal a Broken Heart

By Rachel Sparks

The relationship advice in this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video will help you mend that broken heart. Relationship expert and founder of Single in Stilettos Suzanne Oshima interviews relationship author Duana Welch for her top three tips on how you can heal after a break-up.

Relationship Author Duana Welch Offers Her Best Relationship Advice on How to Heal a Broken Heart

1. Be brave: “The things that we dream of most are the things we are most scared of,” Welch shares. Face your fear in order to pursue your dream relationship. It’s easier to sit on the couch and wallow in heartache, but that doesn’t help you move on. Dating is scary, but as the relationship author says, “Do it anyway.”

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Dealing with a Dating Burnout

2. Move on: May Weather once said, “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Welch quotes this eighteenth-century woman to prove her point: The best way to move past an old heartache is to jump into a new relationship. No matter what people say about loving yourself first, starting up another relationship can offer the adrenaline that helps you forget the past pain.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

3. Learn relationship science: There are boundless resources that can teach you about the human mating cycle. While that’s not a glamorous term for dating, when you begin to treat relationships like science experiments, you can learn what works and what doesn’t. If you’re already hurting from heartache, how bad can failing at dating experiments be? As Welch advises, “Taking no steps is guaranteed failure.”

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Expert Relationship Advice: Two Things That Make a Man Fall in Love & Commit

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to love and dating coach Jaki Sabourin about two things that make a man fall in love and commit to a relationship. Watch the video above for their best expert relationship advice!

Expert Relationship Advice to Make a Man Fall in Love & Commit

First, it’s important to note that it’s not really “things” that make a man fall in love and commit. “They’re traits — traits that you can develop in yourself,” Sabourin explains.

Related Link: Expert Relationship Advice: How to Emotionally Connect with a Man

1. The first trait is your high-value status: “It’s your job to present and project and create this perception that you have a high value,” the dating coach says. “And how you do that is to accept yourself.” Don’t turn over your significance to a man — your personal value needs to come from within. She adds, “Of course, any man who is looking for a woman to spend his life with wants a woman who has a high regard for herself.”

2. The second trait is vulnerability: You need to balance your strong sense of self-worth with vulnerability to avoid coming across as too masculine, aloof, or conceited. “You have to create a space of openness with a man so he can come in,” Sabourin says. “Vulnerability is really about sharing things about yourself, not being afraid to show who you really are.” Tell him things that will inspire him to take care of you.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: How to Get Men to Fall Into Your Lap

What about a woman who thinks being vulnerable will make her appear weak? “Ladies, look at that, because that tells me you’re protecting your heart and you have a defense up,” Sabourin shares. “When you have a defense up, it’s like a wall, a fence, that keeps the love and relationship you want out.” There’s so much power in vulnerability: It shows that you love and accept yourself, that you’ve been hurt but that you’re open to something new.

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Dating Advice Video: Why Smart, Successful Women Can Fail at Love


On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about why smart, successful women can fail at love. “I was in grad school getting a doctorate in the social sciences, and I realized that I was pretty good at that, but I really wasn’t good at love,” Welch shares. “I knew there was something that I was doing wrong — because the common denominator in all of my relationships was me.” Here, she shares three reasons why succeeding at love is hard for so many women.

Relationship Author Duana Welch Is Interviewed in Dating Advice Video

1. The things women do to succeed at work don’t work in the world of dating: At work, women are told to put themselves forward, pursue what they want, and lead their co-workers, but in a relationship, those qualities are often unrewarded. “Research shows that women who routinely pursue men are seen as low-status and not good wife material,” Welch explains. “I hate that!”

“If I liked a man…I was kind of shoving myself down his throat,” the relationship author adds of her own dating mishaps. “Of course, I didn’t see it that way. There’s never been a perfume called Desperation, and there never will be. But in the world of work, that stuff works.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

2. Some men hold a woman’s success against her: There was a study done where researchers put up two identical dating profiles. One emphasized the woman being young and beautiful, while the other focused on her being an educated, high-powered attorney. Unfortunately, it’s no surprise that the first profile got a lot more hits. “One reason is because men respond to youth and beauty, but it’s also because men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than they have,” Welch explains.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes’ But Shouldn’t

3. We have a confirmation bias: In other words, we see what we want to see. “You fall in bed and fall in love, and then you find out the dealbreakers,” Welch shares. Instead, spare yourself the pain and take early action to determine your must-haves and dealbreakers. Then, you’ll be able to make a more informed decisions about your emotions.

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Dating Advice Video: What Men Want You to Know


On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three things that men want you to know. “There’s a complete disconnect in what women think men want,” Oshima reveals.

Relationship Experts Discuss What Men Want You to Know in Dating Advice Video

1. Men are actually very sensitive: Women often think men aren’t sensitive, but that’s just not the case. “In order to feel connected, they need to feel heard and needed,” Olin shares. “And if they don’t feel those two things from a woman, they’re not going to be fully connected or engaged with her.” As much as you want him to understand you, he wants to feel understood as well. “Be curious about him,” Olin adds.

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2. Men want to feel needed: Expanding on the first secret about men, they also want to feel respectfully needed. “Allowing him to support you is something that fills him up,” Olin explains. “It’s so important for women to realize that, as strong and independent as we are, we love a man who can take care of things for us, who can handle things for us,” Oshima says.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: What Attracts a Man

3. Men want to feel appreciated: If he feels appreciated for the things that he does, he’s going to do it ten-fold. “In fact, you won’t feel like, in your relationships, you have to do all of the heavy lifting,” the relationship coach explains. “He’s going to do more and more.” Plus, he’ll continue to build you up and support you if he feels like you’re doing the same for him.

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Dating Advice Video: 5 Ways Women Sabotage Themselves with Men

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Robert Manni to discuss how women sabotage themselves with men and offer their best relationship advice. Here are five ways that women sabotage themselves when looking for love.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice


1. You’re not in it to win it: You may say you want to find love, but instead of going out to a new spot where you can actually meet someone, you find yourself in a routine of dinner at home and TV time. “You have to put yourself out there. You have to be willing to fail to be able to succeed,” Manni explains.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: 4 Ways To Make Your Man Happy!

2. You’re always plugged in: Put your phone down! If you’re walking around New York City with your earbuds in and music blaring, you’re presenting yourself as closed off and unavailable. It’s hard for a guy to ask an open-ended question or chat you up when you’re walled off through technology. Oshima adds, “Those are barriers to meeting someone organically.”

3. You’re not fishing where the fish are: “Go where the guys are!” the relationship author says. You can find guys are at sporting events, at the football field, at a tech store, at a whiskey tasting, or at the gym. Think about your brother and his friends — where do they often go?

4. You’re always with a group of girlfriends: It’s no secret that a pack of women can be overwhelming! Guys are wondering how to handle the group dynamics and just focus on the woman they’re truly interested in. Instead, make it easier for them and single yourself out.

Related Link: Dating Advice: 5 Signs He’s Taking the Relationship Seriously

5. You’re too attached to your list: This is one of the most important ways that women sabotage themselves. “If you stick too closely to your list, you’re going to narrow down your opportunities,” Manni explains. “And the longer you’re single, the longer your list grows.” Make sure your list only includes a few core qualities that are value-oriented and be flexible about your physical type.

A bonus way that women sabotage themselves with men: You throw someone back in the dating pool too quickly. One bad coffee date does not mean the relationship is doomed! “Love grows if you keep an open heart,” the relationship author says. “It can turn into something spectacular if you give love a chance.”

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Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes,’ But Shouldn’t


On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Duana Welch to offer their best dating advice on how to stand firm on your beliefs. Find out how you can say no to things you don’t want without losing his affection with the following dating tips!

Dating advice that will save you from making a mistake.


1. Don’t agree to hang out. You need to show a man how you want to be treated by setting standards. Only say yes when he asks you out on a proper date. Reject all requests that are optional or casual hang outs like “Netflix and Chill.” A man that wants you will get the hint and put in the effort for chase. So keep yourself busy until he puts in the work, and only make yourself available for real dates.

Related Link: Dating Advice: What to Do When He Says, ‘I’m Not in Love With You!

2. Say yes to fun. Happy couples have more positive interactions than they do negative. Take time to enjoy your time together or else your relationship is doomed to fail. Also try to avoid gridlock, meaning your problems never get solved. If you only get what you want with a threat, it’s never going to work. You have to care about each other’s happiness.

Related Link: Dating Advice: How to Tell Him You’re Not Ready to Have Sex?

3. Ask if it’s worth it. At some point in the relationship there will be a betrayal. One person will have expectations that aren’t met in a serious manner. If you decide you want to salvage what you have together, you need to ask yourself if it’s worth the effort before saying yes. You may just realize that it’s not and save yourself from wasted time.

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Dating Advice: How to Tell Him You’re Not Ready to Have Sex?

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On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Tinzley Bradford to offer their best dating advice on telling a man you’re not ready for sex. Find out how you can tell him without losing his affection with the following dating tips!

Dating advice that will help you say no means no!


1. Tell him. You just need to be honest about how you’re feeling. Whether it’s due to a spiritual reason, or wanting to take things slow, you have to be open about why you don’t want to have sex. If you don’t, the man you’re with may think you’re not attracted to him. So tell him how you feel before a misunderstanding occurs.

Related Link: Dating Advice: 4 Ways To Make Your Man Happy!

2. Be careful. If you go out with him and you know you’re not interested in having sex, you need to prevent yourself from entering awkward situations or temptation. This means you may have to decline invitations to spend the night. There’s no reason to put yourself in an intimate position if you don’t want to go all the way.

Related Link: Dating Advice: Dealing With a Dating Burnout

3. Find out. Aside from being honest with a man, you need to find out his intentions for yourself. Ask him how he feels about you not wanting to have sex. This will help you weed out the men who only see you as a booty call. A man that’s really interested in getting to know you will put in the effort regardless of sex.

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