Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?

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Question from Sonya M.: Facebook is the official/unofficial way of announcing a relationship. Is it too vindictive to unfriend an ex, or is that the right move when you enter a new relationship?

Social media is a fun way to share your relationship with friends and family, but if that relationship ends, the waters can get a little murky. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using social media in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about whether or not you should unfriend your ex after a break-up. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice for Unfriending Your Ex on Facebook

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to dating after a break-up or divorce, it’s important to know that removing all traces of your ex on social media isn’t about being vindictive — it’s about moving on.

This is the last step at the end of your relationship, so now is the time for some “spring cleaning.” Daily reminders of him won’t allow you to move forward with your love life, so remember the saying “out of sight, out of mind.” This will remove any temptation to cyber snoop or check in on what he’s doing and who he’s dating. All in all, if you continue to stay connected, then you’re holding on — and this can hold you back from moving forward into another relationship.

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Even though people have become too reliant on social media as their main form of communication, announcing a new relationship on Facebook can feel great and be validating. It’s a nice way of putting something out there about yourself that you feel good about for the people you enjoying sharing with.

On the other hand, if you no longer have an offline connection with an ex and do not feel comfortable posting about your new relationship for them to see, it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend them. However, if you remain on good terms and they’re cool, there is no harm in staying connected with an ex on Facebook.

There are no strict rules or protocol about this. Listen to your inner compass and do what feels best for you. Good luck.

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Dating Advice Q&A: How Do I Get My Husband to Disconnect From His Phone?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: How Do I Get My Husband to Disconnect From His Phone?

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Question from Rachel S.: My husband is a general manager, so even when he leaves work, he’s still working from his phone. He doesn’t mean to, but lately, he’s been so wrapped in his phone that he ignores me when I talk. He seems genuinely apologetic and interested when I get his attention, but it’s getting it that’s hard. How can I get him to disconnect from his phone at the end of the day?

Technology makes our lives better in so many ways, but it can also be a distraction, especially if you or your partner has trouble unplugging at the end of the work day. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology, like your cell phone, in the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question on how to politely encourage your significant other to disconnect from their phone. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice About Unplugging

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to technology, its biggest strength is also its biggest weakness: It connects us, but it also disconnects us from the ones that are standing right in front of us. Your husband may not be intentionally trying to hurt or ignore you, but in this age of technology and mobile phones, it’s easy to get lost in multitasking.

My recommendation is to share with him how his constant connection to his phone makes you feel unimportant and disconnected from him. Then, just ask him to put away the phone on date nights so that the two of you can spend quality time together, uninterrupted by a flurry of notifications and messages. It’s the perfect way to reconnect with each other emotionally and romantically after working all day.

Related Link: Dating & Technology Q&A: Is It Weird If He Doesn’t Call Back After a Date?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It all comes down to communication. In today’s culture, we are are tethered to work 24/7, and you may not be aware of some job pressures your husband is experiencing but not sharing. Getting him to open up about work may be a good way of broaching the phone issue.

Another angle is stressing the positives — how much you and your family value your time with him and how important it is for your husband to invest as much energy in you as he does in his job and his phone. A healthy balance between work and home life is critical to any marriage.

A third, wild-card approach is planning a night planned by you featuring some good old-fashion seduction. If that doesn’t get him to put his phone down, you may have a bigger issue on your hands. Good luck.

For more dating advice and to find out more about our dating and technology gurus, click here.

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Dating & Technology Q&A: Is It Too Soon For Me To Ask Him To Get Off Dating Sites?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: Is It Too Soon For Me To Ask Him To Get Off Dating Sites?

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Question from Adrianne P.: I started dating this guy a few weeks ago, and everything is going great, but there’s one thing that bothers me- he still uses Tinder. I know it’s early in the relationship and I don’t want to seem controlling but I’d still like him to stop. It just doesn’t seem like that’ll help us advance forward in this relationship. Am I being unreasonable?

Dating in the era of social media and cellphones can be difficult. Having many options is something daters expect in case things go wrong. With so many people playing the field it can be hard to find commitment. However do not fret, you can have a successful relationship even if your new partner is still on a dating website. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on whether you should ask your significant other to get off Tinder.

Technology dating advice on whether it’s time to give up dating apps.

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: You’ve only been dating him for a few weeks, so you’re still in the early stages of dating where you’re only getting to know each other and determining if you want to take things further with each other. So, it’s a bit premature to ask him to get off of Tinder. However, I do recommend asking him what he’s looking for, as you will then find out if he’s looking to just date around or if he’s looking for a serious relationship. Then based on what he tells you, you can determine if it’s worth it for you to invest your time into seeing how things go with him. And if things continue to progress on the right path, then you can have the conversation about getting off of Tinder at the appropriate time.

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: These days, daters like keeping their options open, and with all of the options available there’s often a disconnect in how two people define a relationship.The only way to find out where things stand is by asking. Cushioning, maintaining side relations and a constant online presence are standard operating procedure. Tinder is generally viewed as a hook-up app, so if your guy is still active there and you want to move your new relationship forward, ask him if he’s open to putting his digital dating presence on hold. If he really digs you, he’ll agree. If he rejects the idea or skirts the subject, at least you’ll have a better idea where he stands. Since you’ve only been dating a few weeks, for now he may want to continue playing the field. That’s not necessarily a deal breaker. Guys often take more time to “get serious.” Regardless, it’s better to find out what his intentions are before investing too much of your heart into the relationship. Good luck.

To find out more about our three dating and technology gurus, click here.

If you have any questions you would like answered by our relationship experts, please e-mail them to cupid@cupidspulse.com.

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Dating & Technology Q&A: My Partner Fishes For Likes, What Do I Do?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: My Partner Fishes For Likes, What Do I Do?

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Question from Carolyn S.: I’ve been with my partner for a long time now. I love him, but he’s always posting inappropriate stuff (like memes or outrageous status updates) on social media for likes. It’s pretty cringe-worthy to watch. Why does he do this? And why is my support not enough? I can’t figure out why he needs validation from his peers or strangers online.

Dating in the era of social media can put a strain on relationships, especially when one party is constantly seeking approval in a negative way. However do not fret, crude internet personas should not be the cause of your breakup (or at least hopefully)! Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on how to handle a partner’s inappropriate behavior online.

Technology Dating Advice That Will Help You Deal An Inappropriate Partner Online

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: Remember back in high school, how everyone wanted to be the most popular person in school? The one that everyone liked? Well, this is no different. Your partner continually posting on social media is just to get likes and attention from others. While you may think it’s inappropriate, I’m going to guess that this isn’t something that he was doing before you became a couple. So, as long as it’s not harming you or anyone else, don’t try to change him. Just let it go and focus on more important things in the relationship.

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: As long as he is only fishing for likes and not other fish, I wouldn’t be overly concerned about this fairly common social media behavior. Maybe he feels like he needs validation, and for whatever reason maybe he feels he’s not getting the validation he needs at home. A heart to heart conversation usually clarifies underlying relationship issues. Have “the talk” and make sure he shows up with an open mind. Good luck.

To find out more about our three dating and technology gurus, click here.

If you have any questions you would like answered by our relationship experts, please e-mail them to cupid@cupidspulse.com.

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Dating Advice Q&A: Am I His Catfish?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Am I His Catfish?

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Tammy J.: The guy I’ve been seeing is nice, but I’m not sure if he’s really “into” me. He’s also distant and secretive so that makes me anxious. He hasn’t gone public with our relationship online but he sends pictures of us to his mother. I want to think this is a good thing, but it kind of feels like he’s using me. Could he be catfishing his mom? We haven’t officially called each other boyfriend/girlfriend, but I think that’s what he’s been telling his mom otherwise.

Dating has always been complicated. Add the internet, social media and electronic devices into the mix, and it can get confusing real fast. However, do not fret. Leave it up to our relationship experts who can offer their best dating advice on using technology to navigate your relationships. Technology is here to stay, after all, so take advantage of these amazing tools! Learn valuable dating tips from Cupid’s very own, matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship expert Robert Manni. Here they’ll answer your questions on determining whether someone is using you as their catfish .

Technology Dating Advice That Will Help You Find A Catfish

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: It’s time for you to first get clear on what you want and need in a relationship. Once you’re clear, then you need to evaluate whether he’s meeting your needs. If he is, then just share with him that you’re confused as to what you are to him, and just let him clarify things for you. If he’s not what you want or need in a relationship, then it’s time for you to move on to a guy who is into you and is proud to declare you his girlfriend to everyone.

Related Link: Dating Advice Q&A: How Can You Know If Someone is Being Honest Online?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Unless you know your guy and his mom well, it’s not easy to have a clear picture of their relationship. So, instead of focusing on something you have no control over, have a chat with him about your relationship. Since you are not sure where this new “relationship” stands, this is a good time to ask him where he sees things going with you. Don’t pressure him, but get to the heart of the matter. If he’s into you, he’ll let you know. If he wavers or his responses are vague, you might want to reconsider where you’re investing your emotions. I doubt you want to be with someone who does not feel the same way about you.

To find out more about our three dating and technology gurus, click here.

If you have any questions you would like answered by our relationship experts, please e-mail them to cupid@cupidspulse.com.

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